Monday, August 05, 2019

James: The Power of the Tongue


James 3:1-12   (CEB)
My brothers and sisters, not many of you should become teachers, because we know that we teachers will be judged more strictly. We all make mistakes often, but those who don’t make mistakes with their words have reached full maturity. Like a bridled horse, they can control themselves entirely. When we bridle horses and put bits in their mouths to lead them wherever we want, we can control their whole bodies.

Consider ships: They are so large that strong winds are needed to drive them. But pilots direct their ships wherever they want with a little rudder. In the same way, even though the tongue is a small part of the body, it boasts wildly.

Think about this: A small flame can set a whole forest on fire. The tongue is a small flame of fire, a world of evil at work in us. It contaminates our entire lives. Because of it, the circle of life is set on fire. The tongue itself is set on fire by the flames of hell.

People can tame and already have tamed every kind of animal, bird, reptile, and fish. No one can tame the tongue, though. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we both bless the Lord and Father and curse human beings made in God’s likeness. Blessing and cursing come from the same mouth. My brothers and sisters, it just shouldn’t be this way!

Both fresh water and salt water don’t come from the same spring, do they? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree produce olives? Can a grapevine produce figs? Of course not, and fresh water doesn’t flow from a saltwater spring either.




In March of 1862, the publication The Christian Recorder, shared in a publication for the first time, what they called an old adage and one I am willing to bet most of us are pretty familiar.
          Sticks and stones will break your bones
                   But names will never hurt you

Unfortunately, many of us, over our lives have learned just how untrue that statement is --- as we have been wounded greatly by others words.

Yehuda Berg, former director of the Kabbalah Centre once said:
“Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.”

This has been one of the most challenging sermons that I have ever worked on.

The rhetoric that comes from politicians of both stripes has become so uncivil and downright hurtful, and the last thing that I want to do is turn this into a bashing of anyone.

But I would highly suggest that you take a look at the statement that came out of the National Cathedral in Washington DC this past week.  Almost every news outlet covered the story except for a few, that often seem to miss these kinds of stories.

I encourage you just to Google it.

Quoting from the pastors from The National Cathedral: “We have come to accept a level of insult and abuse in political discourse that violates each person’s sacred identity as a child of God,”

Declaring “the time for silence is over,” the statement continues: “What will it take for us all to say, with one voice, that we have had enough? The question is less about the president’s sense of decency, but of ours.”

There are certain Facebook pages that I avoid because they seem to want to encourage belittling of each other.
          And, quite frankly, I have had enough

Words are powerful

And words can be used to hurt or they can be used to heal.

And as I read the news this morning --- two senseless mass shootings --- one in El Paso, and the other just down the road in Dayton.
One has to wonder when WE will say this culture of destruction must come to an end --- and we accept the price that it will cost to truly follow the Christ and put an end to this madness

It was Abraham Joshua Heschel who said:
          “Few are guilty, but all are responsible”

Chew on those WORDS for a few moments.

I am not going to focus on the negative aspect of our words --- each of you could probably come up here and give a testimony on how words have hurt, or maybe even devastated you --- I know I could.

"But what good is that?", as James asked us last week.

So let's look at ways that we can put our faith in Jesus --- who teaches us to love God completely and to love others --- let's look at ways we can live our faith out through our words.

Johnny attended a business training that was conducted by Ken Blanchard and Barbara Glands that was given to 3,000 front line workers of grocery stores and retail outlets across the country.

They talked about the power of words and how what you say really does make a difference in people’s lives.

A month after the event, Barbara said she got a call from a guy named Johnny, who was at the training.
Johnny told her, “I’m nineteen years old. I have Downs Syndrome. I work as a bagger at a grocery store. I went back to the store and I didn’t know how to apply your statements. I liked your talk but I didn’t know what to do with it. I went home and talked with my dad and got an idea. My dad and I sat down at the computer and every day we come up with a statement that is affirming of people, that’s encouraging. If I can’t find one in a little quote book, I’ll make it up. We’ll type it up six different times on the computer. I print off fifty sheets and cut all of them.”

So he has three hundred of these quotes.
Then, every night, Johnny signs each one of them personally.

The next day at the grocery store he puts this stack right by where he bags the groceries.
          He gets everyone’s groceries bagged up.
Then on the last sack he puts the quote of the day, the encouraging word.
He makes sure he looks them in the eye and says,
“I put something very special for you in this sack. I hope it will brighten your day.”

Johnny does this --- every --- single --- day.

Barbara said after about a month she got a phone call from the manager of that grocery store. He said,
“Barbara I can’t believe it. Something really amazing is beginning to happen. I was walking around the store and I noticed while we had lots of checkers at the checkout line, there was almost no one there but maybe one or two people. The line where Johnny was doing the bagging went all the way back to the frozen food section.”
He continued,
“I would tell them over the intercom that there were other lines you could move over to. I would walk down the line and tell people there were other lines open. People would just look and say, ‘No, we’ll wait because we want Johnny’s encouraging word for the day.’
One woman came by and grabbed the supervisor. She said, ‘I used to only come to the grocery store once a week or once every other week. Now I come by almost every day. I buy something just so I can get Johnny’s encouraging word for the day.’”

After about a month had passed, the store manager again called Barbara and said,
“It’s changing our entire culture of our store. Even in the floral department when a flower was broken they used to just throw it away. Now they walk out into the lines, on their own initiative, they pin it onto elderly women or young girls. They brighten their day.”

Every day we are given the opportunity to be a positive influence in the world.

Now I am not telling you that we shouldn't call out those who are speaking vile and hurtful words --- I think we must --- but we need to figure out a way to do it in a positive way.

More than anything else we need to celebrate our commonality

We are letting others divide us

Think of what would happen instead of saying someone whom we disagree on a position is unpatriotic, we looked and celebrated the way we both love our country in our own special ways.

Choosing to be positive requires a conscious choice --- every moment of every day.

At the end of every Rotary Club meeting we would say the four way test --- i still remember it even thought I haven't been a Rotarian for a number of years.
          Is it the TRUTH?
          Is it FAIR to all concerned?
          Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?
          Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?

We need to be conscious of the choice we have to share a kind word rather than a divisive one.

So ask yourself
·         what can I say to encourage that person today
·         What can I say to affirm them in some way and help them to realize how important and special they are to God?

Parker Palmer shares a great story.
It actually comes from Carter Hayward, the great womanist theologian.  She shares

Once there was a wise old woman who lived in a small village. The children of the village were puzzled by her—her wisdom, her gentleness, her strength. One day, several of the older children decided to fool her. No one could be as wise as everyone said she was, and they set out to prove it. So they found a baby bird. One of the boys cupped it in his hands and said to his friend, ‘We’ll ask her whether the bird I have in my hands is dead or alive. If she says it is dead, I will open my hands and let it fly always. If she says it’s alive, I’ll crush it and she’ll see that it’s dead.’ So they went to the woman and presented her with this puzzle. ‘Old woman,’ the little boy asked, ‘the bird in my hands, is it dead or alive?’ The old woman became very still, studied the boy’s hands, then looked carefully into his eyes. ‘It’s in your hands,’ she said.”

Thursday night I had the privilege of attending the closing celebration of Project Transformation.
          153 kids participated
          285 persons volunteered
          Over 3,000 books were read
And most impressively of all, 99% of the kids, avoided the summer slid in their reading abilities

The theme book this summer is one of my all-time favorites, The Lorax, and I want to end by quoting from that great 20th century theologian --- Dr Seuss
"Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better.  It's not."

It is in my hands and in yours --- lets lift each other up with words of hope and love.

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