Fake News: God Won’t Give You More Than You Can Handle

God Won’t Give You More Than You Can Handle

1 Corinthians 10:1-13     NRSV

I do not want you to be unaware, brothers and sisters, that our ancestors were all under the cloud, and all passed through the sea, ² and all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, ³ and all ate the same spiritual food, ⁴ and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank from the spiritual rock that followed them, and the rock was Christ. ⁵ Nevertheless, God was not pleased with most of them, and they were struck down in the wilderness.

⁶ Now these things occurred as examples for us, so that we might not desire evil as they did. ⁷ Do not become idolaters as some of them did; as it is written, “The people sat down to eat and drink, and they rose up to play.” ⁸ We must not indulge in sexual immorality as some of them did, and twenty-three thousand fell in a single day. ⁹ We must not put Christ to the test, as some of them did, and were destroyed by serpents. ¹⁰ And do not complain as some of them did, and were destroyed by the destroyer. ¹¹ These things happened to them to serve as an example, and they were written down to instruct us, on whom the ends of the ages have come. ¹² So if you think you are standing, watch out that you do not fall. ¹³ No testing has overtaken you that is not common to everyone. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength, but with the testing he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to endure it.

How many times have we said it --- or maybe heard a friend say to us:

"I know you are going through a tough time right now. 

I know it feels like the world is collapsing in on you. 

I know you don't feel like to can take much more . . . BUT,"

and if they don't add our week one phrase: Everything Happens for a Reason --- they are likely to throw out this beauty: Don't worry, remember: God never gives us more than we can handle.

I don't know which of those two phrases I dislike more --- but both of them can be exceptionally damaging

I know that when we use these phrases that we are not intending to inflict harm on another ---

          We say things like this because we want to encourage ---

          we want to strengthen somebody (and we have no idea what else to say)

And I suppose that there are times when words like this are received positively and might even provide comfort.

But the idea that God won't give us more that we can handle is at best a half truth.

The passage that was read this morning from 1 Corinthians is often cited to justify this half truth.

Unfortunately when we use this passage in this way we are at best miss-interpreting it, if not downright miss-quoting it.

The text that (Libby/Bob) read this morning is from the New Revised Standard Bible and it choose to translate the Greek word peirasmos as tested --- and that is a legitimate translation of that word.

Reading it that way it is easy to see how some might come to the conclusion: God won't give you more than you can handle.

But the better translation, when one looks at the passage in context is what the New American Standard Version, The New King James and The NIV all use.  Ant that is to translate peirasmos as tempted.

Listen to what Paul writes: (v13) (NASB)

No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.

Go back and read this entire section of scripture and you can see why temptation makes more sense --- Paul clearly is writing about temptations that we face (not hardships)

          things like sexual immorality and idolatry.

Paul founded the church in Corinth around the year 51 CE --- at the time it was a large cosmopolitan sea port in Greece.

Ancient Corinth is a wonderful city to visit, even today, but during the time of Paul pagan influences were everywhere.

I once heard Corinth called the Las Vegas of the ancient world.

Paul is reaching out in this letter to his sisters and brothers who live in this wayward city and trying to give them encouragement to leave behind the idol worship and the temple prostitution that would have been a part of daily life.

The Christians in Corinth were surrounded by temptation

          Sexual immortality 

          Idol worship

          Food that had been sacrificed (dedicated) to the "gods"

So the context for this passage is self-discipline in the face of temptation. 

Paul is telling the Corinthian Christians that their experience was just like the ancient Israelites and that God would help them overcome temptation.

This passage has nothing to do with God not giving us more that we can handle and everything to do with how God will help us in the face of temptation.

Obviously there is another sermon that can be based upon just what Paul means when he says that: "God (who) is faithful, will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able".  But that is for another day.

I want to dig a bit deeper into this idea that God won't give us more than we can handle.

There is a part of each of us that finds great comfort in the idea that the problems and difficulties we face are not insurmountable, that God won't put on us more than we can handle, but

          There is also a flip side to it.

When we use this phrase in hard moments, it makes it sound as if all the horrible things in our life come from God.

Think about that for just a second

When we use the words “God” and “gives” in that way, what many hear is:

·         God gave the cancer

·         God caused the car accident

·         God took the child

·         God sent hurricane Florence to the Carolinas

We are saying that GOD causes the horrible pain in our live.

Two weeks ago I shared why Everything Happens for a Reason is not biblical and wrong.  God doesn't do these things!

Adam Hamilton in HALF TRUTHS writes:

I remember a conversation on this subject with a woman who told me, “For years this statement helped me when I was facing difficult things. I kept telling myself that God wouldn’t give me more than I could handle. It reassured me that somehow I was going to make it through. Then one day I was at my therapist’s office and mentioned it to him. He laughed and said, ‘Are you kidding me? Surely you don’t really believe that. I can tell you plenty of stories about people who had more than they could handle. In fact, my profession consists of helping just such people.’

The counselor reminded the woman that in her own case, she had come to him because the emotional pain and difficulty she was facing had been more than she could handle. In addition, the woman’s mother had committed suicide because life had become more difficult than she could handle.

At first, the woman was angry that her therapist had called her belief into question. But the more she reflected on their conversation, the more she concluded that he was right. Maybe sometimes we face situations that truly are more than we can handle, and that's why we turn to others for help.

The plain truth of the matter is --- we all face adversity in our lives.

          None of us are immune from hardships.

·         People we love may be facing cancer or another terminal illness.

·         We or someone we love may be battling addiction

·         We may struggle with depression and suicidal thought

·         We may have been victims of crime and are holding all that hurt inside

·         We may be struggling with children or grandchildren who are on a downward spiral

WE ALL FACE ADVERSITY

We cannot avoid hardship

I love the hymn What God Hath Promised by Annie Flint. 

Her story is one of terrible hardship and pain and yet she wrote these beautiful words

God has not promised skies always blue,

Flower-strewn pathways all our lives through;

God has not promised sun without rain,

Joy without sorrow, peace without pain.

But God has promised strength for the day,

Rest for the labor, light for the way,

Grace for the trials, help from above,

Unfailing kindness, undying love.

The odds are, and some point in our life --- we are going to face more than we can handle.

          That's why there are doctors

          Counselors

          Therapists

          and Friends!

Scripture never promises us that we won't face more than we can handle

The promise of scripture is that we don't have to go through it alone!

It’s not that God won’t give you more than you can handle, but that God will help you handle all that you’ve been given.

I know when we say things like: Everything Happens for A Reason or God Won't Give You More than You Can Handle that you mean well and your heart is on the right place. 

So what can we say instead --- let me offer some suggestions:

Most importantly --- more than anything else what is needed is:

          Your presence

                    Just be present

                    Sit, listen --- pass a tissue

                    Be comfortable with uncomfortable silence

                    Offer a hug

And if you must offer words --- please don't use: Everything Happens For A Reason or God Won't Give You More Than You Can Handle --- instead offer reminders how they are strong

·         That they can overcome

·         That we have seen great strength in their life in the past and know it is there now

·         Remind them that they are good

·         Encourage them that getting help isn't a sign of weakness but one of strength

Let them know that you care --- not that you have answers

Let them know that they are not alone

          You will be there with them

          God will be there with them as well

One of my favorite passages of Scripture is in Paul's letter to the Church at Rome

We know that in everything God works for good with those who love him, who are called according to his purpose.

What the shall we say to this? If God is for us, who is against us? Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.  For I am sure that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8:31, 35, 31‑39

I think there is a good reason why we are attracted to our first three half truths.

If God causes the problems (because everything happens for a reason)

If God won't cause us to bear more than we can handle

Then God will help those who help themselves --- In other words --- it is our job to pull ourselves up by our boot straps and FIX our problems

But that is not how it works

Bad things happen --- and we aren't always at fault

Things happen that are well beyond our capacity to solve

It is in working together --- with God --- that a community --- a society --- flourishes --- and that happens when we help each our --- when we help ALL of God's children to rise above.